Mallory Vipond ~ SFA 2012-13

Suzanne Alston, Mallory Vipond and Bryan Alston

Suzanne Alston, Mallory Vipond and Bryan Alston

We enjoyed meeting Mallory Vipond who is the 2012-13 SFA Lauren Alston Memorial Scholarship recipient.  She is a lovely young woman who smiled frequently.  When we first met her my eyes went to her pretty face and then straight to her neck…yes, her neck.  Mallory had on the exact same James Avery cross that I wear everyday that was Lauren’s and she wore almost everyday too…and she had it on when she had her accident.  Mallory’s mom gave her the cross necklace when she graduated from high school…another God wink.

Mallory will be a Senior this fall and is leaning toward being an Event Planner but after taking some Hotel/Motel management classes she enjoyed…she is investigating that avenue also.  She is from New Braunfels and after visiting with her we found how much we have in common and that we might could have “run across” each other before.  We go to the New Braunfels area often and we all liked eating at some of the same restaurants…going to Gruene Hall to listen to live music… the same bands and local stores.  Mallory told us about going to interview at the SFA Alumni Association for a summer job and that they told her about Lauren and how the scholarship was started.  She had tears in her eyes as I told her about the matching James Avery cross we both wear.  I told her what a God wink was and how it confirmed we had picked the right recipient…her.  We told her to stay in touch and we wished her all the best life has to offer.

Paying it forward…In action

  • We received several notes and messages from friends and family who performed Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) in memory of Lauren…they made us laugh… smile… and they warmed our heart.  Every single act, be it big or small, can have a huge impact on someone’s day or even life…and maybe even yours too.        

    Shelby Portwood and Lauren

    Shelby and Lauren

    A sweet note I received from a good friend of Lauren’s…Shelby Portwood.

    * I have to tell you about how special and wonderful your daughter is.  Yesterday, I was trying to think of an awesome random act of kindness, and all day I just couldn’t decide what to do.  I had a massage scheduled and just decided that I would leave the masseuse a nice tip.  A few hours later I was sitting at the bar, in the restaurant that I work at, when out of the blue the masseuse and his wife came in and had dinner.  My friend/co-worker waited on them; she’s a single mom of two who works two jobs.  She came over later to tell me about this nice couple who left her an awesome tip, just when she needed it.  Paying it forward, in action.  I know a lot of sadness comes from not having her physically here, but I believe, wholeheartedly, that her spirit and her kindness can still touch even those who didn’t get the chance to meet her.*

    Some of the posts I received on RAK’s done in Lauren’s memory are:

    Roy A.  ~ I sent cards to cheer some suffering folks!!! Love u Suz!! and Bryan

    Ben O.  ~ I’m taking my class on a charity walk today to benefit victims of the earthquake in China…and the sun is shining!

    *Ben is a 1st cousin to Lauren, who is a teacher living in Hong Kong, and he also participated in Outward Bound Adventure Race…a test of brains and brawn, where the participants ran, swam, kayaked and answered quick-fired questions…on the 15-19 km race around Hong Kong Island.  Monies raised are used to help underprivileged groups take part in outdoor and adventure programs.  Ben said…”I ran faster…for Lauren”.                          

    Ben Owens in Outward Bound Adventure Race 2013

     Ben is on the far right… “006B”

    John J.  ~ Giving Heaven booklet to several recent grieving family members.

    Andrea W.  ~ Left pennies last night at the horse, sent a surprise to Georgia for Chase, and working on another one right now.
    *Andrea is a 2nd cousin to Lauren, who lives in Colorado, and for several years now she and her sweet daughter, Lianna, randomly leave pennies at the supermarket “horse ride” so other children can ride for free…imagine those kiddos squeals at finding pennies for a free ride on the horse…makes me smile…what a fun RAK….wish we had penny horses in Texas.

    Andrea, Kevin & Lianna
    Please send me a message when you perform a RAK in Lauren’s memory…we would love to hear the “who, where and why” of your act.  Thank you for continuing Lauren’s legacy of reaching out to others.

Random Acts of Kindness

Yesterday was the 3 year anniversary of her physical death…and I chose to celebrate her life…I chose to not let the sadness of the day suck me under…to the dark waters…I chose not to spend my day mourning and crying…I do that enough already.  I wanted it to be a day of smiles…laughter… and Random Acts of Kindness….aka: RAK’s…I wanted to make others smile…and laugh…so I could…and hopefully Lauren would too.

I started my day by thinking of Lauren and what she loved…what made her happy…made her smile.  Lauren enjoyed older folks…she was good with them…listening to their stories…playing games with them.  Some people have a gift for that…the patience…the understanding…the knowledge of when to listen and when to make them laugh.  So my first RAK was to buy some single, long stem roses…I wanted to share the beauty of the roses…the beauty of my rose.  I took a dozen yellow…a dozen pink and white…to a local nursing home.  As I went through the front door…right there…waiting…was a little, gray-haired woman in a wheelchair.  She said “Oh what beautiful roses you have”…and I said “Yes ma’am they sure are”…I pulled 1 yellow rose from the bunch and handed it to her saying…”This is for you…have a beautiful day…from Lauren”…her face lite up…she smelled it… and she thanked me profusely.  That was enough for me…that face…that smile.  I took the rest to the nurses station and asked them to please pass them out to anyone who needed their spirits lifted today…she said they would be happy to.  I didn’t explain why…I didn’t tell…I didn’t want it to be about my sadness…  my loss…but about Lauren’s smile and beauty…I also didn’t want the recipient to feel sadness for my loss…only the happiness and joy of getting a beautiful flower.  I didn’t have to see the end results…of the 23 others who received a rose…it lifted my heart…made me smile…to see that one and know it was multiplied.

Lauren loved animals…and we have always had a pet…usually a dog…usually two at a time…lol.  While she was at college…living on her own…she missed have a pet…someone to snuggle and play with.  One house she lived in with 2 other girls…one of them had a cat.  Now Lauren was allergic to cats…but she wasn’t gonna let that stop her from moving in…she said she would just keep her bedroom door shut and the cat out.  Well…that didn’t last long…she couldnt take it and the cat couldn’t either…he snuck in or forced his way in…to her room and her heart.  It was a kinky- haired cat that was supposed to be non-allergenic…and soon he was sleeping in her room…on her bed…on her clothes on the floor.  She loved it…she had a furry pet friend again.  Lauren had just moved out of that house the week before she died…she moved in with her grandparents to save some money before graduating…and Cosmo…yes, that was is name…Cosmo missed her terribly…keep looking for her…going in her room…meowing.   So my second RAK was to take a huge bag of dog food and cat food to the local animal shelter.

My third RAK…I took an apple pie to the front office of the RV park we stay in while we spend our 6 months a year in Fredericksburg.  They had been so kind to us…sending a beautiful plant..when they heard the news of her death…even though we had only just started staying there…and they didn’t know her.  I’m sure they didn’t know what the day was…but I wanted to make them smile…with a piece of apple pie…so I left it in the break room for all to enjoy.

My last RAK is still in progress…it’s a roll of pennies.  I plan to leave them in places…when I “feel the need”…maybe on the pavement…on a counter…on the floor.  You see I hope it will be the “penny from Heaven” that someone needs that day…whether it ends up being the “one” they needed when checking out at the store…or the “one” that is a sign from their loved one who has gone on before them…that they are loved.  I remember one day talking with my friend…who is also my nail tech and was giving me a manicure…about Lauren and her life…because she knew her too.  I was telling her about the “God winks” I had been getting and told her they were kinda like “pennies from Heaven”.  I can’t remember for sure if she had heard of that phrase before…but I told her the meaning behind the words.  We continued to laugh…and cry… talking about Lauren…and when I left and got to my car…there were 2 pennies on the running board of my car.  There was no “reason” for them to be there…and no one, who had been in hearing distance of us…had left the salon.  I started crying again…and had to go back in and show Kristal what I had found…”pennies from Heaven”…one for her…one for me.

RAK’s don’t have to cost you any money….just a little time….it’s the thought of others that counts.  It could be a smile for someone…a head nodded  in acknowledgment…holding a door open…letting someone go ahead of you in a checkout line…a phone call to check on a friend…a handwritten thank you note to a teacher…it can only cost us just a little time…to make someone smile…laugh…or feel better.  A little kindness goes a long way…it’s healing…it’s heartwarming…it’s happiness… for them…and it sure was for me…I was able to laugh…to smile…to have a happier heart.

1,577,440 Minutes

30 Years

360 Months

10,957 Days

262,974 Hours

1,577,440 Minutes 

That is how long we have been married…today.  

Who could have known what all we would go through during that time.  

Where we have gone…the things we have seen…done…experienced.  The people we have met…friendships we have made.  The places we have explored…mountains we have climbed.

 The two beautiful…loving…children we were blessed with.

 The loss we have endured…

 Love is not as simple and sweet as candlelight, roses and chocolate…

 Love is day-to-day living…taking the time to be there with open arms…a listening ear…a giving heart…

 With everything we have been through in the past 30 years…the good and the bad…the only thing I would change would be losing our daughter.  

Love bears all things… Believes all things… Hopes all things… Endures all things.  I Corinthians 13:4-8

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Update on Lauren Lognion

I wanted to give you an update on Lauren Lognion…one of our Love, Action, Faith Scholarship Recipients.  She is about half way through her 11 month journey to 11 different countries.  She has been to Malaysia, Australia, Vietnam, Cambodia and is in India right now.   She has had many new life experiences and gotten to meet the “locals”…learn their cultures and ways…while she gets to show the love of Christ in different forms.  She has taught English to children at night, subbed in a Christian School during the day, worked in a coffee shop…where she was able to be meet the locals and share when God presented the opportunity.  In Australia she preformed community service by daily picking up trash in the community and held bible studies, worship services and sing alongs at night with the aboriginals and so many more unique life experiences.  She, and the team she is with on The World Race, are giving 11 months of service… an opportunity of a lifetime…with lessons on community service and love in action.  We think she and this trip represent what this particular scholarship was intended for.  In her thank you note she said she was going to carry our Lauren’s beautiful smile and love to all she meets…and we are honored for her to do so.

Below you will see one of her latest posts from her journey.

Lauren LognionLauren is on the right… in the purple shirt.

Stuck!

Posted in General Posts by Lauren Lognion on 1/15/2013

 I am in INDIA. It is month five of the race and starting to set in… Im away. Away from family, friends, target, the gap, comfort food.. Anything I would normally do when bored has been removed. Our internet access is very limited and going for a run is not an option. (unless I want to run with one of the men from my team and in pants.) All that being said.. it is worth it. Im a planner, always have been. Always wanting to know the next step to take and don’t want to waste anytime getting there. So as God continues to make my love and passion for the children and youth in America more and more clear I find myself wondering why wait until I return in August to begin. Why am I still here? on the race.. traveling around the world, when I could be back in the states working with the youth? I am almost 24 and no where near reaching any of the “goals” I had set for myself. What am I doing? I am Stuck! and God said.. yep! That is exactly right! You are stuck and finally sitting still. You, Lauren, don’t have the answers, you don’t even know all the questions to ask, and that’s exactly where you should be. “Be Still and know that I am God” As badly as I would like to skip ahead and get to the next step, start working and begin, God has me exactly where he wants me. It is uncomfortable and confusing but because I cant answer the questions I find myself going to Him even more. So this month on the race has been hard and not because of the squatty potties and bucket showers but because that control Ive talked about giving up for so long.. is gone. I have spent more time than ever listening to God and allowing him to be my teacher and comforter. This race is one unique journey and I am blessed to have such a patient God walk along side with me and point me in the right direction when I find myself stuck.

Around the World

Wow…It has been a year since the LAF website was started.  A huge Thank You goes to Sean Dupre and Bryan Alston for setting it up and getting us rolling.  Sean has patiently answered all my questions and tutored me down this road of discovery on websites.  I wouldn’t be where I am today without his help.

 I was so excited to discover who had been looking at and reading post on LAF for the past year.   There have been over 6000 views from 48 different countries.

US with 4199 views

Canada with 57

United Kingdom with 46

Germany with 18

Ireland with 9

all the way down to Uruguay with 1

Some of the Countries I hadn’t heard of like…Mauritius and Montenegro.  Others I had like Russian Federation, Finland, Nepal, Singapore and Turkey…we are world-wide.

The Top Posts read were…of course the Home Page with 2576 views and About LAF with 508 views.

 But the top three that I wrote were… “Tattoos A Permanent Mark” with 337, “Loving for her was as easy as breathing” with 314 and “Hopes and Dreams” with 253.  

We also have 46 “Followers” and would love to have more.  If you are reading this and would like to be a Follower…just sign up with your email address, which will stay private, and you will get an email when a new blog has posted.

These are some amazing numbers…for the Lauren Alston Foundation.

Thank you for being there for us…for letting us express ourselves…for supporting us in providing scholarships for deserving college students and mission works of Love, Action and Faith.

We are blessed to call you friend…and Lauren was blessed to have so many loving friends in her life.

New Year’s Prayer

A New Year’s Prayer

Dear Lord, please give me 
A few friends who understand me and remain my friends; 
A work to do which has real value, 
without which the world would be the poorer; 
A mind unafraid to travel, even though the trail be not blazed; 
An understanding heart; 
A sense of humor; 
Time for quiet, silent meditation; 
A feeling of the presence of God; 
The patience to wait for the coming of these things, 
With the wisdom to recognize them when they come. 
Amen. 

Author Unknown

We want to wish you all a Happy New Year.  May God continue to bless you and your family with good health, an abundance of love and precious time with your family and friends.

Thank you for being a part of our lives, for your love, your prayers and for your support in continuing Lauren’s legacy of helping others.

Garage Sales and Godwinks

I realized recently that I hadn’t posted about the Garage Sale fundraiser we had in late August and September.  It was a huge success because of many helping hands, the generous donations of items, many long hours sorting and tagging, guidance from an estate sale pro and with a little blood, lots of sweat and mucho love… poured into the event.  We are so blessed to have generous and loving family and friends who are always willing to lend a helping hand, give us hugs, listen to our troubles and wipe our tears…they are the “hands and feet” of Christ.

It started with Ms. Betty…I only wanted to borrow some tables…but she went way above and beyond that request.  She gave of her time helping sort, price and set up…her talents of organizing a sale, making sales and running the cash register each day…her generosity of letting us use her tablecloths, signs, cash registers, and more.  And with her gift of listening… hearing our worries, pains, doubts and hurts…she shared with us bits of wisdom and His love that we needed to hear….she was a priceless gift.

We held the sale in one of our rent houses that was unoccupied at the time…and being indoors and having A/C  was a huge help.  One day as I was wiping out the kitchen cabinets, so we could display items in them, my rag pulled out something that I heard hit the counter.  I looked until I found it…a small purple flower pierced earring…for a little girl….I sucked in my breath…it looked like one Lauren had as a little girl…when we lived in this house.  I showed it to Bryan later and he immediately said “it looks like one of Lauren’s earrings”…how could it be…it had been 20 yrs since we lived in that house.   It was…a Godwink…a message from Him and her…they are with us.

The first day of the sale was a Friday.  Bryan’s parents came over early that morning from Nacogdoches to help with the sale and they brought their local newspaper.  A little later in the morning, when there was a break in the action, Bryan started reading the paper.  The first section he read…on the second page…was a picture….of Lauren….yes, Lauren…how could it be.  She had been asked to be a “pretty girl”  in some promotional pictures for an up and coming Texas country musician…JD Newbury…and he was appearing that night in Nacogdoches.  Bryan brought it to me with a shake of his head and tears in his eyes…I had to “show and tell” all the workers…and soon we all were crying…tears of disbelief…sadness… and then tears of joy…for the Godwink…we felt she was with us and telling us she approved of what we were doing.

JDLaurenLauren is the girl on the left.

Later, as I was going to the different rooms checking on the workers stationed there, I saw one of Lauren’s friends, Maegan aka Skippy, with tears in her eyes.  I hugged her and asked if she was ok.  She said… “A few minutes ago I was looking out the window thinking of Lauren and the fun times we had together…and I know you aren’t going to believe me but I saw her name written on the window…like a child would have.”  I started to cry and told her I did believe her…because we were in Lauren’s bedroom….it was another Godwink.  You see we had left the A/C running all night and there was some condensation on the windows…and Lauren had probably written her name on the only window in that room….and Skippy didn’t know, until then, that we had ever lived there.

One of Lauren’s friends, MJ, had made posters with our mission statement and pictures of the scholarship recipients.  We had those above the check out station so everyone could see it, we told all who entered the purpose of the garage sale and we passed out slips of paper with the LAF website address so they could look us up online.  Some people were moved by our story and her legacy of helping others, that we are trying to continue, and gave more than what they bought.

Between 2 different garage sales totaling 3 days and Ms Betty selling our “best left-overs” in one of her estate sales…we raised right at $4500.  We also have a brand new SS KitchenAid Double Convection Oven (valued at $2300) that a special friend, Beth, donated that we trying to sell at the highest price and money from clothes that were donated to Rose Cottage Resale that will be added to this awesome total….for an even bigger grand total.  🙂

*If you wish to still donate there are several ways you can always do so…anytime of the year*

You can make a donation on this site by clicking the “To DONATE Online” button and use your PayPal account.  OR mail it to: LAF  PO Box 152535  Lufkin, Tx  75915   OR you can take your nice, gently used clothes, jewelry, shoes and purses, anytime to Rose Cottage Resale, located in Lufkin, and tell them to put it under the account/name of Lauren Alston Foundation.

**In case you missed one of my earlier post about Godwinks and you are wondering what that means.  It is from a book I highly recommend called ~ When GOD Winks at You~ by Squire Rushnell     Here is what they are:  messages of assurance that no matter what is happening in your life or how uncertain things may seem at the moment, God is with you and will help you move toward certainty. “When God Winks at You is an amazing array of real-life stories that will help you begin to recognize the godwinks in your own life and attain an unshakable confidence that you are never alone…and never have been.”  He has several books on Godwinks and I just downloaded a new one I am fixing to read called ~ Divine Alignment ~  How Godwink Moments Guide Your Journey

Thankful for Sweet Friends

I am thankful for sweet friends of Lauren’s who still contact me with funny stories and memories…inspiring devotionals…dreams of her…and just to let me know they are thinking of her…and us.  I have had two contact me in the last two days…Katie Anderson Kelley and Elizabeth Lishewski.  I am so thankful that they stay in touch…I like knowing how their lives are progressing.  Katie is married and has a precious baby boy on the way…Elizabeth is getting married in January…both went off to college and graduated…they are living full, happy lives.

 I like to imagine what Lauren might be doing now…

Would she be the Event Planner she aspired to be… Yes, I’m sure.

Would she be working and living in a big city…she liked Austin… Probably so.

Would she have a steady boyfriend, be engaged or even married… I know at least a boyfriend.

Would I be a Grandmother yet…Probably not…she was scared to give birth and wanted to adopt…I assured her when the right man came along she would want to bear their children and she could adopt too…of course after getting married…lol.

I am thankful they are leading wonderful lives and still think of Lauren…their friend.

  • Suzanne,

    I was thinking about you today and wondering how you were doing. I’m sure some days are better than others, but you are unbelievably strong and inspiring. I hope that your days are filled with sunshine and joy and that they remind you of your beautiful daughter. I also hope that Taylor and Bryan are doing well, too.

    Love, 
    Katie

    Hi there!
     
    After I read this forward from my mom I started thinking about things I am thankful for. The holidays are always stressful around our house every year and especially this year with my wedding in January. Randomly, I have been thinking about Lauren lately. It seems as though I’m thinking of her more especially when I visit home and see your family’s old house every time I turn the corner onto Paintbrush. Just wanted to let you know I am thankful for the time that I was able to spend with her and that I will always think of her. I’m happy that I was able to know her even if it was for a short time in the grand scheme of things. I seem to worry about very small, minuscule things and I know I should be grateful for the things in my life and there are far more important things to think about. I thought about your family and wanted to let you all know I am praying for you because I know the holidays are probably more difficult than usual. Hope you like the post below!
     
    Elizabeth
    P.S. Lauren also introduced me to the band Modest Mouse in high school and especially a song she loved called “Float On”. I’m sure you’ve heard of it, but I always think of her too when that comes on the radio. 🙂
    So… today I am thankful for these young women…for their friendship with Lauren…
    for the silly nicknames they gave each other…
    for riding to school together and singing out loud to the radio…
    for their mutual love of pickles…
    for the secrets they shared…
    for their laughter and good times together…
    for signing their names on a napkin at Sonic…
    for taking the time to let me know they still think of her….
    AND I am thankful for the 21 years and 10 months that I had Lauren Alizabeth Alston in my life.

Can’t judge a book by it’s cover…

I went this last week to get my driver’s license renewed.  After the lady took my picture…she looked at my old one…then new one and said…”Wow…these look exactly the same…you haven’t changed.”  The first picture was taken 10 years ago…and you can’t judge a book by its cover.  I’m not the same… I did lose 50 lbs after Lauren died… I think my face is slimmer in the second photo…and I’m sure you could see more wrinkles if the picture was bigger.  But I have changed… a lot…but mostly in ways you can’t see.

You never know…by looking on the outside…what is going on….on the inside.  You can’t always look at someone and see their pain…their loneliness…their fear…their frustration…their sadness.

 The next day after getting my license renewed…a video was posted on my Facebook page.  A video a cousin’s son, who we call a nephew, had made….it’s beautiful…it’s touching…it’s his journey….

http://animoto.com/play/DpDImHnkD6KRi4tdM0MtQg

….of love…of loss…of finding his way back.

Lauren loved Spencer and his 3 brothers…and felt like they were her brothers…and they treated her like a sister…lol.  She loved Darie, their Mother, and felt like she was a second Mom and good friend to her too.  We are so proud of Spencer and the young man he is growing into…his faith is strong.  He made this video for one of his college classes, he works part time…and has found his way back in life.

You can’t judge a book by it’s cover…you have to look on the inside…to really see what is going on.